After the Blessed Rain: A Mother’s Story of Loss and Becoming
A Conversation with Sundy
Episode Summary
In this conversation, Patti sits with Sundy, a licensed marriage and family therapist, to explore the layered experience of pregnancy loss and the grief that comes with it.
Sundy shares her story of losing two babies during pregnancy, the trauma surrounding those moments, and the uncertainty that followed. She speaks to the unique nature of this kind of loss, one that often goes unseen and unnamed, yet deeply shapes identity, relationships, and the experience of becoming a mother.
This episode reflects on the concept of ambiguous loss, grief without clear resolution or recognition, and how that can leave people feeling isolated in their experience. Together, they explore the tension between hope and fear, the impact of unmet expectations, and the process of learning to live without answers.
Sundy also shares how grief and joy can coexist, and how over time, loss can shape a deeper capacity for connection, meaning, and presence.
In This Episode
Topics discussed include:
• pregnancy loss and the trauma surrounding miscarriage and stillbirth
• the emotional impact of losing multiple pregnancies
• ambiguous grief and the loss of what never fully came to be
• identity and becoming a mother through loss
• navigating uncertainty, fear, and unmet expectations
• the role of faith, anger, and surrender in grief
• how grief and joy can coexist over time
• supporting others without trying to fix their experience
About Our Guest
Sundy is a licensed marriage and family therapist whose personal and professional work is deeply shaped by her experiences with grief, loss, and connection.
If you’re interested in learning more about Sundy or connecting with her for support, she is listed on the website here.
If You Relate to This Episode
Loss during pregnancy can feel deeply isolating.
You may be carrying:
• grief for a child you didn’t get to raise
• fear around future pregnancies or outcomes
• anger, confusion, or questions without answers
• a sense that your loss isn’t fully seen or understood
This kind of grief is ambiguous.
You are allowed to name it, feel it, and carry it in your own way.
Resources
Pregnancy & Infant Loss Support
• Share Pregnancy & Infant Loss Support
https://nationalshare.org
• Star Legacy Foundation
https://starlegacyfoundation.org
• March of Dimes (Loss & Grief Resources)
https://marchofdimes.org
Mental Health & Crisis Support
• Call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline)
https://988lifeline.org
• Postpartum Support International (also supports pregnancy loss)
https://www.postpartum.net
Need Support?
If this conversation brings up emotions or you find yourself needing support, Patti offers one-on-one conversations for those navigating grief, loss, and life transitions.
You’re welcome to reach out here.
Reflection
What does it mean to hold both grief and joy at the same time?
This episode invites you to consider how loss has shaped you, not just in what was taken, but in what has been created within you.
Share This Episode
“Grief carves a space in us… and over time, that space becomes a place where joy can live too.”
If this episode resonated with you, consider sharing it with someone who may be navigating a similar kind of loss.
